Single Girls Vacay

Okay so I recently came back from a girls trip and as we were there we couldn't help to notice how many couples surrounded us. And we are all Single Girls. Now I come to realize that whenever I am on a trip I notice these lovey doveys and can't help to feel some type of way. Lol. But not in a bad type of way just wow I wish I could come to a hot spot and just kick back with some dude and enjoy each other. But I will say the benefits of going with ya girls are:

1. Being single and ready to mingle. Basically everyone there knows you ladies are there solo and so every Tom, Dick, and Harry tries their hand. But since we're on vacay it's all in fun. So go for it and have fun. Meet all the guys you want and mingle with them because guess what you're there single so why not.




2. Being able to do as you please. And come and go as you want. Of course you must be mindful of your companions and use some boundaries. But basically you are free to be YOU and have fun.




3. All the HATE. Yes I said it. When you are single and having a good time on the girls trip other females (mainly those in couples) tend to hate. They stare you down, give you evil eyes, the whole nine. And GOD forbid you say hi to their MAN they are so close to falling out. And yes I said it's a benefit because guess what that means you must be on POINT.




4. FUN. It's straight up fun and in a different way. It's not hanging out with your boo. It's hanging out with your girls. Daring each other to do things you normally wouldn't do at home. (hehe) Doing things and wearing things you normally wouldn't at home because you can. Partying and drinking all night and having to nurse each other in the morning and having a great time reminiscing.




5. Friendship. You build a better bond and have a better understanding of someone when they are on vacay. You get to let loose and let your hair down and what not better way to do it than in the company of your friends.

So of course there are some drawbacks as well like if you shared a room and wanted to bring some random stranger in you really can't (lol). But other than that there is nothing more fun than hanging with your girls. Tanning, shopping, bar hopping, drinking, partying, mingling, and more. So if you haven't had an all girls trip I say for every girl not just single girls you must do it. Just remember this saying doesn't just go for Vegas-so what happens there, stays there.

What's a SINGLE girl to do?

So I'm getting pretty fed up with this dating world. I think I'm just getting fed up with the men that are available or that are or have dated me. I say this because it seems as if men in my age group are not really interested in commitment. Now I'm not saying that's true for ALL men because it isn't. I have friends who are engaged or married to great guys. I even have male friends who are serious about looking for a relationship but can't seem to find one, a good one anyway. So with all of that said recently I asked a friend of mine how was it going with this guy she was dating-her response was "umm I don't know what's going on." Then she proceeds to tell me that he is just too busy and not ready to commit to anything. I mean wtf. But I have heard this story one too many times as well so I know where she is coming from. What is it with guys in the late 20's to early 30's range being too busy and so work committed that they can't focus or have a relationship? Are men afraid of commitment? What do you think you're missing out on? You aren't getting any younger, when do you think that YOU will be ready? And yes it is true that women mature faster than men and maybe that's the reason why but then I'm like that's just an excuse. And then I'm thinking well maybe he isn't really all that into the person. Then my question is why spend so much time with this person? Why try to get to know a person for a long period of time to end up saying well I'm not looking for anything more? Wtf. Do you seriously think I need another friend? If I could count the long conversations, dinners, movies, evenings together, etc... that's a lot of time spent and WASTED. I don't know what the problem is but I wish these dudes would get it together. I'm all for you trying to get work in place amongst other things but don't miss out on a great person just because that's your focus. What options does that really leave us women? I guess we could date OLDER men ( I don't care for them too much), date women (umm I think not), or just remain SINGLE. But why? I know I won't get an answer but I guess I can remain optimistic and just see what happens. There has to be somebody out there for all of us SINGLE women.

Single Girl Dating Policies

So I’ve come to the conclusion that all men know what to do on a date. Not all men know proper dating etiquette. Now that can be for several reasons: they have no manners, the female(s) before have never expected them to, or they just don’t care. Most recently on MTV’s from G’s to Gents the G’s had a lesson on etiquette. They then had to display what they learned while on a date with Esther Baxter. It was quite hilarious how so many of them were clueless. Now I’m not saying all men have to follow this because not all women are into chivalry. However, I can say that this young lady right here is. And I don’t mean do these things ONLY on the first date. This should be done all the time especially if you’re dealing with a LADY. So listen up.

• Please be sure to be well groomed. I mean I spent my 30 min in the shower and another 30 figuring out what to wear, another 30 doing my hair, and another 30 putting on makeup and other finishing touches. So if I took ALL of that time trying to make sure I look and smell good then the least you can do is the same. Hair should be combed, teeth and breath fresh, shoes shouldn’t be dirty or your clothes, jeans shouldn’t hang down to your kneecaps- we are adults dress like one, and most importantly your hands should be clean.


• Please open all doors (including my car-even if I’m the driver) and pull out chairs if we’re out dining somewhere. And when I say open the doors I don’t mean open the door and you walk through. I mean open and hold the door let me walk through first and then you do the same. And as far as the car you can miss this one sometimes, I’ll let you slide.


• Please if we’re going out to eat, I don’t care if it’s just IHOP- you should not be eating your food with your hands. That’s why we have eating utensils. It’s okay for certain foods but no for all. Basically if we’re out to eat, especially at a nice restaurant please turn your manners up a notch. That means no elbows on the table, no reaching across the table, no talking with your mouth full, no licking your fingers afterwards, no wearing your hat in the restaurant, put your napkin in your lap when the food first arrives, etc… If you need more dining manners Google it. I’m not saying you have to know which fork goes with what because even I don’t know all that but it may impress me if you do. Just know the basics. Lol.


• And while we’re on the subject of eating please, please, please do not get onions or at least try not to eat them. Well not if you’re planning on kissing me. I can’t stand onions and onion breath is not easy to tame. I can offer you a hundred and one mints and I will still smell it, which will then make me turn my nose up in disgust. But if you MUST have onions have some mouthwash, toothbrush, or something just as strong on hand because gum and mints don’t always do the trick.


• Please make sure that if we STOP at a gas station and you happen to be RIDING in my whip to get your a** out and pump the gas. I’m not saying you have to pay it (which would be nice since I am driving) but at least get out and pump. It’s the least you could do.


• Please don’t be all loud and ghetto and all on your cell phone. Don't be cursing and whatnot all loud in public when do you have to take a call. I mean its okay to take a call here and there-well not really. Lol. But if it’s a call you were expecting or an emergency. Other than that the phone should be on silence, vibrate, or better yet off-you’re with me. Focus!!!


• Eye contact is great. Don’t be looking at my booty or anywhere else for that matter. At least if we have good eye contact I know that you are focused on me and paying ME attention. That is always a plus!!!! (I could do better at this myself)


• Being on time is a MUST. How can I wait on you when I’m already 10-15 min late? Lol. I’m late because of all that prep time I took to get ready for YOU so please try to be on time. And if I am on time and you’re not oh we’re going to have some problems. Both of us can’t be late. Lol. But I’m not a total witch about being on time if you know how to pick up the phone and call and say,”hey sorry but I am running late because of x, y, z.” I shouldn’t have to call your phone like 15-20 min after meeting time like “hey where are you?” No. That’s not cool. So just try to be on time. Leave the being late up to me. : )


• Please don’t be super arrogant and so stuck on yourself that you talk a whole in MY head about YOU. It’s okay if I’m asking you questions about yourself but when you randomly start throwing out who you know, how much you make, and what you got then I’m already uninterested. Keep that to a minimum. And on the flip side don’t be a COMPLETE mute. I like to talk and I would appreciate someone to have a conversation with. Not just me yapping and you listening. It gets boring and old really fast. So if you think you won’t have much to say then maybe you should stay home.


• This is an ultimate no- DO NOT come to pick me up for a date and sit outside blowing the horn. Be a gentleman. Get your lazy tail out of your car and walk to my door and ring my bell. Now this usually does not apply to me since I usually meet guys out as I don’t like people at my house. But this should apply anyway for anybody else.


• And last but not least if you ask ME on a date I expect YOU to pay. Not for us to go dutch or for you to ask for help on the bill. You should be paying in full. I’m not saying we can’t ever go dutch or that I can’t sometimes pay for the date because I do but that needs to be discussed prior to so that I know what I’m getting myself into.

All in all dating should be about having fun. And we shouldn’t have rules but unfortunately we do. All I want is to be treated like a lady. I act like a lady so why not try treating me like one. It’s the least you can do and we’ll have a wonderful time. : )

And not ALL dudes totally disregard etiquette just some of the few I seem to pick up.

Dating Tips (not mine-lol)

I'm posting some dating tips I got from an email that was forwarded to me. I think some of the tips are good but some (okay one) is a lil far fetched. Well maybe I just don't have self control that's what. lol. But tell me what you think about these tips below. Maybe you agree or disagree. Let me know. If I end up dating anyone else new I may try to apply some of these tips and see where it lands me.

Dating Tips to Grow a Strong Relationship!

Pray – Before you even leave home to meet your date you need to spend time on your knees asking God to help you honor Him and your date. You can never go wrong with prayer. This will also put you in the proper mind-set for your time together.
Talk a lot – There’s no better way to get to know someone than by talking to them about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more you will begin to know if this might be a relationship that you should pursue.
Let’s be friends! – This is an important dating tip to remember. Don’t forget that until you are married the person you are dating could be some one else’s future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain 'just friends', the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point.
It's great being married to your best friend!
Pray in groups – What in the world does that mean? This sounds like an odd dating tip. What we’re suggesting is that you don’t pray together alone as a couple too early in your relationship. Prayer is so very important in any relationship so please don't misunderstand this point. When you pray with someone of the opposite sex that you care about you begin to build a level of intimacy that can often lead to trouble.
The goal in any Christian relationship is to honor God. Prayer is intimate communication with God and can draw couples together in ways not intended if you are not careful. It’s better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas.
Choose to not kiss – At least until you are engaged to be married. Okay, this can be extremely difficult, but if you can follow this one dating tip then most of the others will happen naturally. Even kissing once you are engaged can be very dangerous. It’s better to not kiss at all until your wedding day! Before you laugh and click to another page with thoughts that we must be insane, consider these points on kissing.
A kiss begins to sexually stimulate a man (and woman) instantly.
If you aren’t kissing then you won’t become tempted to take things to a more intimate level. You’ll be protecting yourself and the purity of your date.
If a Christian man is kissing his date and it gives him an erection (often just the possibility of a kiss can do this), is God or his date being honored?
Is this healthy for the man to get sexually aroused time after time without sexual release? When men become sexually aroused a large amount of blood flows to the genitals. If ejaculation does not occur; the build up of blood can become painful. That just can't be a good thing for anyone! Ouch! :O)
A kiss will surely break down your barriers and leave you in a position that could ultimately devastate your relationship with your date and separate you from a close walk with God. Self-control seems to be the better option.
Just think how magical that first kiss will be if it is saved for your wedding day!
Include another couple – You will find that physical issues are much less distracting if you plan most of your dating situations to include other couples. Group dates can be a lot of fun and you’ll also be helping your friends maintain purity in their relationships as well.
Always treat each other with respect – If you respect the person you are with then you won’t say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself 'what would Jesus do?' and then do it!

Please don’t simply read these dating tips and then not try to apply any of them to your dating situations. Dating is a wonderful experience and should be enjoyed by both people in the relationship. If you came searching for these dating tips then you have a desire to honor your date and honor God with the choices you will make while dating.

Stalker Date

Have you dated someone who was a STALKER? Who was obsessed with you? who was a Bug-a Boo? I mean what are these dudes thinking? I hope they don't think that its cute to chase a woman down to the point that she is scared for her life and wants to file a restraining order. I had a guy recently who I dated for such a small amount of time that I didn't even understand where all the EXTRA was coming from. The constant emails and calls begging to speak to you. I mean c'mon wtf is really good no wonder you're single. I had another dude I used to date that told me straight up that he would not stop calling me until I had changed my phone number. I mean what is that about? Is that supposed to make me answer your calls or respond to your many texts and emails? Are guys that pressed for a female that they go to extremes. A girlfriend of mine recently told me that a guy she dated was going through her trash and found out her work address after she broke it off with him. When is enough is enough? When is a woman saying to a man hey it's over and let's leave it at that just be THAT. Why should there be anymore especially if there's a breakup and maybe not a friendly one at that? What pushes a guy over the edge to the point that they start to harass a woman? Aren't we ALL adults? If I say please leave me alone shouldn't that be just that. Do I need to say it a different way or in a different language? Is there a different interpretation for leave me alone? I used to have this boyfriend who a bit crazy so I left him alone. Well it didn't stop there. It started with him popping up at places he knew I would be at to him calling my friends and family to find out where I was. Can we get your life together. What's really going on? When someone says its over its over. Granted there maybe a slight chance that if you have feelings for the person you may try to win them back but not to the point where they fear you. That's not even cool. So with all that said guys and girls too being a stalker is NOT cool. Its downright scary. Who wants to constantly watch their back just because you don't understand that we're broken up. It's bad enough we have other things to worry about while dating but stalkers too... wow what is this world coming to....lol

Bad Date

What constitutes a bad date? A bad date could be two people just not feeling each other or mainly one not feeling the other and it shows. Or it could be the event or things that occur during the event. There could be a lot of reasons as to why a date goes bad. And I've had my fair share of bad dates. All in all they are lessons to be learned. I always try to think about what part I played in the bad date and vice versa. Now there are ways to come back from a bad date but some are just not fixable. lol. I had one guy I went out with (and I will take a lot of blame here) that I showed up late to where we were supposed to meet. He kept calling me but I was on a long distance VERY IMPORTANT phone call so I would not click over. When I finally called him he had left our meeting spot but said he would meet me closer to where we were supposed to have dinner. Ok fine. So I get to our meeting spot and park my car and he meets me at my car and then we drive around looking for parking for his car. SO he decides to park right in front of the restaurant. Now I should've known something was up because you are not allowed to park in front of the establishment. He tells me not to worry about it that he'll just get a ticket. Umm ok. Moving right along we get inside the restaurant. Now here is when things really go sour. He starts talking (bragging) about himself and how he has this and that. So I pretend I'm listening but its hard to focus because I'm supposed to meet my girls after dinner with this dude and they keep blowing up my phone. Now granted usually I would put my phone on silence but because I had to meet them somewhere I kept it on vibrate. So the more he talked about self the more I lost interest and the more my phone buzzed. I apologized profusely but honestly I didn't even care. So now we order. He orders an appetizer along with dinner. The appetizer comes he devours it then excuses himself to the bathroom....... 15 min later I'm like wtf is up. Did he get sick? ... 30 min later and I call his phone goes to vm. I call a few more times-same thing. wtf. no wait for real did dude leave? So I have my friend call him and he picks up and as soon as she mentions my name the phone disconnects. Ok so now I know that my DATE left me. lol. I can't believe this. But I find it hilarious until the waitress comes over. I explain to her the situation she asks me do I still want his meal to come out (umm NO) and then she tells me to just enjoy my dinner but that I will have to pay for the appetizer he ate. wtf. are you serious right now. So now I'm mad but you know what I don't even care. I sit and enjoy my dinner and her tip was right there in the appetizer. Did I hear from him again of course not. Did I learn a lesson. You bet. Don't go out with ugly dudes just for a free dinner. lol. especially if you're not interested for real. So that goes down as WORST DATE EVER. Do I and the few friends I told still laugh about it. Of course.

Interracial Dating

What exactly does that mean? Most people consider interracial dating to be a black/white couple. But there can be all types of interracial dating. I wanted to post this today because I recently went on a date with my friend who happens to be Caucasian. As you can see I have no problem dating outside of my race. I guess it has something to do with my background and the way I was raised. I try not to look at someones race as an issue we are ALL equal in my opinion. We all bleed, cry, hurt, love and go through the same things however different it maybe for you or others. Needless to say while I was out with my friend we passed a guy who happened to be my race and he started making rude comments and shouting obscenities about us. I tried to ignore the situation and start conversing with my friend who I am sure heard the person as well. It's almost scary-what do you do in that situation? Is it fair for someone to judge whom you choose to date?

I was watching the Black in America series and there was a young black woman on there who spoke of her white husband and biracial children. She talked about how his family would make remarks about their relationship and not just his family but strangers in passing as well. Again why is it that people feel they can pass judgement on other people's relationships? I hear the stories about the black women who get upset when they see a white woman dating a black man. Who cares? Why is it any of your concern? Clearly that's who he chose and you shouldn't be trying to figure out what went wrong and why he didn't choose you or someone else. That is his preference just like we all have preferences. Why should we knock someone for their decision.

Something New was a movie in which a black woman starts dating a white man. She has to deal with her feelings for this man as well as the reaction of her family, friends, and strangers. And I could completely understand what she was going through. You want to try "something new" but then you're afraid because you don't know what peoples reactions are going to be. And not that someones reaction should dictate your relationship but you feel uncomfortable when you hear remarks and stares just because of who you are with. You feel uncomfortable to hold their hand, kiss them in public but at the same time you don't want the uncomfortableness to show through. You want everything to seem normal just as if you were out with someone of your own race. You try to get past the uncomfortableness but its hard. And then eventually I'm sure it gets to a point where you just say Fu*k it. Anyway I don't really know where I am going with this I just needed to get my thoughts out. But people need to either mind their business or be more open minded. This is the new millennium let's get it together.....it's no longer Jungle Fever you can't help who you love....... so I'm going to keep pressing on and try to move pass the haters and keep dating whomever I want whether they be purple, Asian, or whatever. I just want peace and happiness.

The Annoying Date

How can a date be annoying and you haven't even gone on one? I'll tell you how. There are guys who just chill and are laid back and there are those that I would call Eager Beavers. First of all guys if you like a female it's fine to let her know but not on a constant basis if you just met a few days days prior. It gets a bit annoying. To tell a female that you JUST met you miss her can be a bit scary. It kind of puts me off like wtf. I don't even know you. Don't by no means tell a female that (again) you just met that you've been staring at pictures of her and thinking about her all day. Wow. Let us at least be on the same page first or just actually hold that thought. I'm not knocking you if you just instantly fell head over heels but if you can tell the recipient is not feeling the same way cool it a bit. Turn it down a notch. Don't plan vacations and rendezvous' for future dates when we haven't even had a first one. How do you (guy) know that you'll make it past another week? a month? All I'm saying is that some guys need to chill. What's the rush? Just take it easy. To add to it if you're meeting someone online and we DON'T know each other please be easy. I had to delete one guy because he was just asking too many questions after about 3 hours of me starting my account. I already knew where he worked, lived, his phone # and email. I'm like wow you waste no time. And maybe that's me being cautious but the whole over the top look is not cute-you're doing too much. Just fall back a bit. This is not the case for all guys but there are a few that fall through the cracks and it makes you wonder why they maybe single.....

Dating 101

Maybe this should've been my first post. I recently got into a conversation with someone regarding dating. I mean what exactly is dating? So I found a definition of what dating is:

a. An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.
b. One's companion on such an outing.

So my definition doesn't vary too far from the definition I found. Dating to me is to go out with the person and getting to know them mainly for romantic reasons. Now people have their own definitions of what dating is. And then there is the question of dating vs courting? what's the difference? And there is one. The main difference seems to be that modern dating may include intimacy whereas courting does not. Courting consists of getting to fully know the person without any intimacy and leading to marriage. So there you have it. And most people like myself tend to date. I guess you can call me old fashioned but I do enjoy taking the time to get to know a person. There are some people who like a person and they may go out a few times and they just go straight into a relationship. Personally I feel that leaves room for failure because you're getting to know the person as you go along in a relationship and what if the person is not exactly what you want or thought. That's when relationships go sour. I rather save myself the headache and the heartache. Most of they guys I date anyway don't make it pass a few dates so why set myself up. And although a relationship is not marriage it's still a relationship. And for that reason alone I'm just a single girl dating......

Dating in Cyberspace or should I say MYspace

I've never been the one to venture to cyberspace for a date. I mean the idea sounded really crazy to me at first but now I'm not so sure. I mean I think I may actually be open to the idea. I've been reading articles and watching news programs where more and more couples are actually meeting online and getting married. Is this just a fad? a fake? or the real thing? I see the commercials for Match.com all the time and now they're even offering a promotion. I may just have to take them up on that and see what the possibilities may be. But then I go back and forth with myself and it brings me back to my original reasons for staying away from online dating. My reasons are what if this guy is a nutcase? but then again I guess that can qualify for any person you meet. What if this is not the person that he says he is? I mean let's say we swap pics and then we meet up and you look nothing like your pic isn't that a false pretense? I'm not being superficial either I'm just saying if I think you look like one thing and then you come off like wtf. lol. True story that happened to my friend. She had been talking to this guy on my space for awhile and then they met up for drinks well he was NOT at all what he looked like in the pics. The actual picture he sent was a throwback pic but at least she stayed had a drink on him of course and left never to contact him again. I know you may think she was wrong if she was feeling him prior to but isn't that a form of deception? Anyway my last reason is you just can never tell. I would much rather meet you face to face and follow my instincts then get caught up. I guess that's me being cautious. Anyway I think I may actually get a MYspace account just to see what this online dating is all about. I mean you never know my prince may come through for me right there on my screen... I'm open to the thought.....

Childless Dating

NOT ME. Sounds cruel but true. And I hate to be like that but I don't have children of my own. I want someone who is bringing the same thing that I am and that is no kids. And honestly its getting harder to find men who don't have kids. I hate asking that question do you have any children because 9 times out of 10 the answer will be YES. And I don't want to come flat out and say okay well talk to you later. lol. Now I can understand if you were married and are now divorced and have a child or children. That's understandable. But there are a lot of young men out here who have children and some times by not just one but two or three other females. I'm not judging them or their behavior but what's the problem. Why lay up with someone and have children by this person if you honestly don't see this person in your life. It's a sad situation for all. I understand that things don't work out and sh*t happens but it just seems a little too frequent for me.

As I seek that one person for me I would prefer that he be childless. Not because I'm against children but because there can also be a lot of drama that comes with that man and that child. I have dated a few guys with children and I always say to myself afterwards I will NEVER date another guy with kids. However, somehow there's always a guy who I'm interested in who comes with that little extra. Maybe I'm a little spoiled because I at times feel as if I have to compete for attention. Of course the child should be number one in that man's life but I also want to be number one and there can't be two number ones so then I fall back. And don't get started on the baby mama drama that can be associated with it. That's another day. I just want to be able to start fresh with someone that I am hopefully married to and that WE can bring OUR child into this world TOGETHER. Is that too much to ask for?

Second Date??? Maybe....

SO the newbie has asked for a second date. In all honesty I know the first date ended on a somewhat positive note but I think it still left a bad taste in my mouth. I just don't know if I'm up to having a 2nd date? You know how the book goes maybe he's just not that into you well I just don't think I'm THAT into him. And to be quite honest we may have had one whole 3 minute conversation since the last date. I mean c'mon dude I know people get busy but I am a FIRM believer that people make time for the things that they want to make time for. So with that being said I just don't know about granting him a second request. I'm trying to keep an open mind though so we'll see. ...

The Ex-Factor....

So this weekend I went to NYC in hopes of finding "NEW" friends (men). Unfortunately that didn't pan out but its all good. For the record I had a ball regardless. So when I got back I got an instant message from one ex and an email from another. Both wanting to see me. Now I don't go backwards (I try not to) but a free outing is a free outing. So I chose the ex I hadn't seen in awhile but I have actually been thinking about him. So it worked out perfect. We went out to eat. And I must've been nervous because I just kept rambling on about nothing really while he just kinda watched me. I honestly don't think I ever really looked him in his face. Maybe I was afraid he'd hypnotize me and I'd just be a fool in love all over again or that I'd jump his bones (it happens). Now granted this still was a dangerous move for me because this particular ex I do still have feelings for. But like everything else they too shall pass. So overall it was a nice dinner quick lil catch up but somewhat awkward. Then he asked for a hug I think I had avoided it on purpose. But at the end of the night I gave him a hug and I swear he didn't want to let go and frankly neither did I. But the night ended well. He even emailed me when he got home to let me know it was really good seeing me. I'm like wow get it together girlfriend. Yesterday I fell asleep with a smile and this morning I woke up with one. Oh how I miss that man. I must remember he's an ex for a REASON along with the other busters.

So while on my way to NY I get a text from the new guy. I must say I was surprised. Not because I didn't expect him to ever contact me again just surprised that he was wishing me well on my trip and couldn't wait to see me again. Wow so maybe he really isn't that much a jerk after all. lol. That was kind of my end impression. So we'll see what happens with that. Actually I just got an email from him. lol. Hopefully it's a good one. Ugh pretty vague but its okay.

I must say that I don't know if some of the exes have bumped their head but they have been in contact with me as of late. I mean I don't mind hanging out with some of them because honestly no HARD feelings we didn't work out and there's a reason for it. But it also makes me think why are you all of a sudden contacting me? Are you bored? Or do you remember that I'm probably one of the best things you had going for you? Whatever the case is I'm enjoying it because actually the ball is in my court. And I don't have to see them if I don't want to and no explanation needed. But there's one who we did hang out recently and he seems in love. Okay it's not that serious buddy. Fall back a lil because we just hung out that one time and granted we had a nice time I'm not trying to take it there. So as nicely as I try to let him know it is what it is I don't think this particular ex factor is getting it. So what's a girl to do....

The New Guy

Yesterday was my first date with the new guy. And as much as I anticipated it I'm going to have to give it 3 out of 5 stars. First of all I got turned around trying to get to the restaurant. Then I couldn't find parking and I was now late. : ( So through all of that I managed to make my way to the restaurant. Well my date was sitting there outside waiting for me on his laptop (not a problem). I say hi. He barely looks up and continues to work on his laptop. Umm hello I am here so I just take a seat beside him until he's finished up. But now since I received this shady sort of response and unfriendly greeting (not even a smile) I turn shady. And my whole demeanor and attitude changed. I wasn't nasty I was just quiet. He immediately sensed that something was wrong and proceeded to question me about it. I didn't even want to get into it so I said nothing and smiled. As I'm looking at the menu I look up to ask him something and he's not there. So I'm thinking wtf. The waitress then comes over and asks if there are 2 of us and I look confused because Idk where my date went. But then he returns and doesn't say anything. At this point I'm just like let me let the shadiness go. This is the first date let's see what happens. So then he starts to question me again about my "malfunction" as he called it. My attitude. My shadiness. Whatever. So I begin telling him that I just gave back what I got. And he explains that he was doing work and couldn't just stop. So I say okay that's understandable. The rest of the night is okay with some forced conversation but we manage. After dinner we go to talk and he brings back up the beginning of the date. So I break it down to him and explain that he wasn't very friendly when I walked up and that he didn't even acknowledge my presence. He tried to come back by saying that if I had walked up on my cell I probably would've done the same. I explained to him that I wouldn't because I would've at least smiled, acknowledged him and held my finger up to let him know to wait a sec. So then he understood and agreed that he could've been better. And then he apologized. So after that the night was quite smooth. I'm glad that we cleared that up. But this guy is a lot more serious than most guys I date. So right now I'm on the fence but I'll give it another shot and see where this leads. But strangely enough the newbie has me thinking about the previous ex. That's another story.

The Friendly Date or is it Outing????

So Friday night wasn't exactly what I expected. But it was nice nonetheless. A friend of mine invited me out with him and I'm so grateful that he came to get me (gas prices are KILLING me). Anyway we went out to a nice lil lounge to celebrate a friends birthday. We didn't stay long and I had a killer headache (the camera flashes were NOT helping) but I could tell that maybe my friend had a lil more on the mind. Being the person that I am I quickly shut down any thoughts that he may have been having. He even threw in a comment you should've brought an overnight bag. Umm no buddy I don't think so. I mean we're cool and we used to date a year or so ago but now we're just friends or at least I think so. Maybe he thinks there's more to it or maybe I was just looking like a goddess (lol). He did say several times through the night that he was SO happy to see me and I looked great. Well thanks and I really did appreciate the first few times but after awhile its just like Ok. Am I wrong for thinking that? Oh well. Our outing just started feeling slightly awkward. I think we were just on 2 different pages. But no bad feelings. At the end I think he wanted to go in for a kiss but I quickly gave my cheek. I'm not trying to lead anyone on. Overall I am glad I was able to see and hang out with an old friend. And I still didn't see Wanted. But at least I did some good shopping. : )

This weekend I'm trying to find someone to take me to the movies. I want to see the new movie Wanted. Why am I having such a hard time finding a date for this one? lol. Well I think I may have it, some of the guys that are in my phone book I just don't want to be bothered with them. One of them is really immature. The other is kind of flaky. One just plays too much. Is it too much to ask for a nice guy who has good conversation and can just hang out without anything more than that? I mean I do have friends like that but they are married men. I don't mind hanging out with them from time to time there's nothing wrong with it as long as its not a habit and there's nothing more to it. But it just leaves me back at square one cause I'm not trying to hang out with the taken ones either. Well I guess I'll just have to go with my girls or solo. I'll see but I am going to see the movie regardless. lol.

The Dating Game

We've all been there, done that. We're supposed to date until we find the ONE. And although I've been on plenty dates-some good, some bad, some nice, some not so nice I still haven't found the ONE. SO I decided to write this blog about my dating woes and more. I have to say that's why I love Sex & the City. Carrie and the girls really were onto something. And since watching th emovie and Carrie being married there's one less girl off the single road (even if it's fictional). I will have to say most of my friends are single. Granted I do have some, okay 3 friends that are married the majority of us are single girls. And the general consensus seems to be that there aren't any good guys available. I don't completely agree with that statement. Just not EVERY guy is meant for EVERY body. For me personally I seem to meet guys who are either workaholics OR are just NOT willing to commit. I'm like c'mon guys we're not getting ANY younger and who are you holding out for. But the reality of it is that I am single and I am content with that but I do and am dating.
I went out on a date a few weeks back with a gentleman who I met about 2 years ago at a party. He's a friend of a friend. And its weird because I think we both know that we are NOT meant to be but its still ok to go out on a date and catch up from time to time so we did. We actually went on a double date and my friend that was also with us commented after the date-it's been 2 years maybe he's not that into you. I had to turn it on her and inform my friend that I am just not that into him. And this particular gentleman and I go out one time maybe every 4-5 months. I guess we're both bored so we just see each other. But once we go out its almost like we realize why we don't go out and why we haven't spoken in months. And since our last date we have not spoken-it happens everytime but I am not worried. He'll call back sometime I guess.
Moving right along there's a new guy in the picture. He and I met almost the same way at a friend's birthday party. So far so good. He seems nice. We've had 2 long conversations in total. One of my friends has met him and she thinks he's pretty nice. We actually have an upcoming date that I am excited about. I'll have to tell you how it goes......