Date Anxiety

okay so this isn't my first date with him but I am still anxious as if it is. I'm not quite sure why that is. I think I was less anxious and nervous than this the FIRST time we went out. So I just need to relax. But I swear time is going by so slow. This whole week has gone by slow. I think it maybe because one- I really really like him. And second this time we're on my turf as opposed to me going to his side of town. I know that I have a lot planned for us and I guess I'm just hoping that everything goes smoothly. You know how it is when you have plans and you want them to go right. So anyway I guess that's why I have all the anxiety at this moment.

Anyway date anxiety is something that I'm sure most of us either go through or have gone through. And I guess it really depends on how much you like the person cause we all know it ain't the same for everybody. I mean we all get nervous at times and it can even happen on the date itself. But the key thing is just to be easy and not let the butterflies get the best of you. Be your charming, beautiful, witty self and all will fall into place, at least that's what I keep telling myself. ; 0

Bad Date

What constitutes a bad date? A bad date could be two people just not feeling each other or mainly one not feeling the other and it shows. Or it could be the event or things that occur during the event. There could be a lot of reasons as to why a date goes bad. And I've had my fair share of bad dates. All in all they are lessons to be learned. I always try to think about what part I played in the bad date and vice versa. Now there are ways to come back from a bad date but some are just not fixable. lol. I had one guy I went out with (and I will take a lot of blame here) that I showed up late to where we were supposed to meet. He kept calling me but I was on a long distance VERY IMPORTANT phone call so I would not click over. When I finally called him he had left our meeting spot but said he would meet me closer to where we were supposed to have dinner. Ok fine. So I get to our meeting spot and park my car and he meets me at my car and then we drive around looking for parking for his car. SO he decides to park right in front of the restaurant. Now I should've known something was up because you are not allowed to park in front of the establishment. He tells me not to worry about it that he'll just get a ticket. Umm ok. Moving right along we get inside the restaurant. Now here is when things really go sour. He starts talking (bragging) about himself and how he has this and that. So I pretend I'm listening but its hard to focus because I'm supposed to meet my girls after dinner with this dude and they keep blowing up my phone. Now granted usually I would put my phone on silence but because I had to meet them somewhere I kept it on vibrate. So the more he talked about self the more I lost interest and the more my phone buzzed. I apologized profusely but honestly I didn't even care. So now we order. He orders an appetizer along with dinner. The appetizer comes he devours it then excuses himself to the bathroom....... 15 min later I'm like wtf is up. Did he get sick? ... 30 min later and I call his phone goes to vm. I call a few more times-same thing. wtf. no wait for real did dude leave? So I have my friend call him and he picks up and as soon as she mentions my name the phone disconnects. Ok so now I know that my DATE left me. lol. I can't believe this. But I find it hilarious until the waitress comes over. I explain to her the situation she asks me do I still want his meal to come out (umm NO) and then she tells me to just enjoy my dinner but that I will have to pay for the appetizer he ate. wtf. are you serious right now. So now I'm mad but you know what I don't even care. I sit and enjoy my dinner and her tip was right there in the appetizer. Did I hear from him again of course not. Did I learn a lesson. You bet. Don't go out with ugly dudes just for a free dinner. lol. especially if you're not interested for real. So that goes down as WORST DATE EVER. Do I and the few friends I told still laugh about it. Of course.

The Friendly Date or is it Outing????

So Friday night wasn't exactly what I expected. But it was nice nonetheless. A friend of mine invited me out with him and I'm so grateful that he came to get me (gas prices are KILLING me). Anyway we went out to a nice lil lounge to celebrate a friends birthday. We didn't stay long and I had a killer headache (the camera flashes were NOT helping) but I could tell that maybe my friend had a lil more on the mind. Being the person that I am I quickly shut down any thoughts that he may have been having. He even threw in a comment you should've brought an overnight bag. Umm no buddy I don't think so. I mean we're cool and we used to date a year or so ago but now we're just friends or at least I think so. Maybe he thinks there's more to it or maybe I was just looking like a goddess (lol). He did say several times through the night that he was SO happy to see me and I looked great. Well thanks and I really did appreciate the first few times but after awhile its just like Ok. Am I wrong for thinking that? Oh well. Our outing just started feeling slightly awkward. I think we were just on 2 different pages. But no bad feelings. At the end I think he wanted to go in for a kiss but I quickly gave my cheek. I'm not trying to lead anyone on. Overall I am glad I was able to see and hang out with an old friend. And I still didn't see Wanted. But at least I did some good shopping. : )