Thursday, April 22, 2010

ElimiDate

So I've finally managed how to juggle while dating.  Juggling men that is.  I've stated this before but I've always been the type to put all of my eggs into one basket, well not this time around.  I have been dating three men simultaneously and it has been great.  Each guy is different and I notice that I show different sides to each guy.  It's like you have to play up to each of them and their personalities and dating styles.  It even works out great that when one is busy with something else the other entertains me.  Now some people may look at it as a bad thing but it really isn't.  How will you find the one you're looking for if you're only spending time with one guy who you might be slightly interested in.  So it's almost like a process of elimination.  You date a few guys at a time (notice I'm saying date the guy, not sleep with the guy) and you'll be able to compare and start to eliminate the one(s) that are not up to your speed. 
Dating multiple guys has also allowed me to just have fun with it.  I'm able to relax a bit more and just really be myself without getting uptight or upset because I had plans with Mr. X and he cancelled last minute.  That is no longer the case if Mr. X cancels well there's always Mr. C, F or B.  Now I have options and when you have options and choices the things you normally would be concerned about when dating one guy can be over looked.  I will say this though, there is one that is truly sticking out amongst the rest.  I really like him and I think the feeling is mutual.  So I will say that I am a happy camper. 
Now who says that dating multiple guys isn't fun? At the end of the day look at it as if you were on Elimidate and you're trying to find the best mate.  So let the dating begin and may the best man win.  : )

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have to agree with u 100%. I'm dating a few people myself and it is like elmidate. They all know I'm dating other people and sometimes they can be a bit competitive but I like it. They are always on top of their game! I'm just going out and enjoying the company they give me. Each one gives me something different. I'm loving the freedom of not putting all my eggs in one basket! I feel ya girl. I'm doing me with no reservations. Although I must say there are days when I rather have one special person to devote myself to but until I find the right one I'm a free agent and will continue to date multipule people @ 1 time. I think its better this way.

hero-n said...

It is refreshing to hear women talk about this. I think you should keep it up. As long as none of them thinks they are the only one, no one is getting played. Don't play house... live a little.

Donnice said...

Great post. I totally agree! Leave your options open and let them show you that they are worth it.

Anonymous said...

I definately agree girl. And I am on the same wavelength as you. Theres been 3 men in my life for about 4months now, and Im really starting to fall for one. Whats even better is the fact that from his past, I wouldve never given him the chance. When I changed my mind set and my outlook, I feel more content being able to open up to each one in a different way. Its crazy I felt like that was me writing what you wrote. Have fun with it.. and yes, MAY THE BEST MAN WIN. :)

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